Did you know Japanese spend a large amount of money on wedding?
In Japan, the average cost for a ceremony, party and banquet is ¥4,200,000 (in 2008). Just imagine paying more than $42,000 to get married! Can you believe this??? Yes, that's so C-R-A-Z-Y!!
Did you know quite a few weddings are held in churches, however?
The wedding banquet is usually held in a hotel. Most hotels in Japan will have a wedding chapel inside the hotel. Although it's said that more than 90% of Japanese are Buddhists, actually most Japanese are not religious. Their main reason to be a Buddhist is that their ancestors had belonged to Buddhism, THAT'S ALL.
The majority of Japanese go to temples only for funerals and therefore they have a gloomy image of them. Plus, most Japanese don't know Buddha's birthday, but still cerebrate Christmas. LOL.
To a non-Japanese, the sight of non-Christian Japanese couples marrying in church may seem out of place. But, for Japanese, wedding ceremonies have nothing to do with religion. They will hold them at a shrine, church or any place as long as it's fashionable.
A church is a bright and fashionable place in the minds of the Japanese. This must be greatly influenced by the Hollywood movies in which beautiful brides with a wedding dress often appear, I think!!!
The bride and groom entering in a GONDOLAAAAAAAAAAA!!!
Dry ice smoke, laser lights, etc...
The actual marriage ceremony may be small and intimate with only family and a few close friends attending. The banquet is perhaps the most important part of the entire wedding and sometimes can be compared to a Broadway musical shows/Las Vegas casino's shows. LOL.
The couple and their respective parents host the banquet and invite their families, friends, coworkers, bosses and acquaintances. This is the moment when their parents introduce the newlyweds to their community. The parents want the couple to be accepted, so the banquet they host must be GORGEOUS. There's good food, plenty of drink, singing and gifts for the people to take home as souvenirs of the wedding.
Japanese people care SO MUCH about what others think, that's why they like to have very showy weddings. The average the guests for a ceremony, party and banquet is 74 people(in 2008).
My old friend Machiko got married about 10 years ago, the guests of her wedding banquet were 300 PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Her parents are corporate operators, so they invited many people.
I know what you're thinking now......
YES!!! Japanese weddings are represent a union between 2 families and mainly ARRANGED BY PARENTS rather than the couples themselves. I think wedding is actually for the couple. But in general, Japanese weddings are so family event.
In most Western countries, people usually bring gifts for the newlyweds. These're often items that the young couple will need or want, such as bedding, linen or other household items etc... But Japanese people generally GIVE A GIFT OF MONEY named "Goshugi", and there's a special envelope used to hold the money named "Goshugi Bukuro".
Customarily, the amount is between ¥20,000 and ¥30,000 ($200-$300), but some give more than this amount. If 100 people attend the reception, the newlyweds can collect as much as ¥3,000,000($30,000). This money covers the wedding ceremony and reception expenses.
(In Japanese the number "4" is pronounced "shi," which means "death". So nobody gives ¥40,000. It's also customary to give money that has no wrinkles or creases.)
Besides, with the parents often bearing most wedding expenses, it's rare for a young couple to pay for the wedding banquet.
In Nagoya(Middle area of Japan) have a saying;
"If a man has three daughters, he'll be bankrupt by the time the last one marries".
This gem of wit comes into being because the father of the bride is heavily burdened by the tradition of having to give costly trousseaus consisting of furniture and kimono to the bridegroom. The average cost of these's reported to be around ¥7,000,000($70,000)!!!!!!!!!!!!!
After the wedding, more gift-giving follows. Each guest receives a "Hikidemono". Again, Nagoyans favor the conspicuous, so the "Hikidemono" too, is usually big and bulky. Visit Nagoya, if you want to see a wedding that still captures the flair and flavor of the good old days.
If you live in Japan, you may be invited to a wedding party by your Japanese friends. Then, you would be hate them! LOL.
I have been invited to wedding party as many as 2 TIMES by my old friends in only 1 month, and I became "Goshugi Binbo(gift money poor)". I had to buy the airplane ticket(¥50,000 RT × 2 times), to get a new dress/bag/shoes/accessory and give Goshugi!
When I think of gift money, I shudder EVERY TIME I receive an invitation card. T_____T
One more thing, I and my hubby got married 4 years ago, but we didn't have enough money to hold a wedding reception, we had a little party with very close friends, so there were no needed to do that.
We have an ORIGINAL RULE among friends when someone will have a wedding banquet.
"PAY BACK Goshugi if you got a divorce within a year!!!!!!"
Typical 80's/90's wedding
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